An attractive girl always gets more attention from men than the one who isn’t attractive as far as the social constructs of beauty are concerned.
I would first like to state that I care about my physical appearance. I’m your average 18-year-old college student. I wear makeup, paint my nails, buy clothes that I know would look good on me and probably use too many heat products on my hair whereas I should really appreciate my natural hair texture and am realizing it now as I write this. If I’m feeling dangerous, sometimes I buy name brand items. I like looking approachable and I like feeling good about myself. But beauty will only go so far. I’m here to tell you that your looks will fade one day. Overall, your personality wins every time. And I’m here to tell you why it matters more, why you matter more.
If I told you appearance was totally out of the question, I would be lying. But beauty without brains means absolutely nothing.
As cliché as it is, beauty really does come from within, from what’s in your heart. Someone may be attractive on the outside, but once they start talking, you can be instantly repelled. Or someone may not be your idea of a ‘good-looking’ person, but when you get to know them you completely forget about that first impression you had of them.
We shouldn’t be putting all our focus on our physical appearance. No matter how we display ourselves on the outside, it’s our personalities and what’s in our hearts that we really need to have going for us. ‘Beauty’ is also a subjective concept and for the most part of it, a social construct. What one person finds attractive might be unattractive to someone else. What one person values in another is different for each person.
Let’s be real. I’m 5’5, I have a naturally small figure, average curves, and thin legs. Who cares? Most pictures on the Internet are edited anyway which is fine if you want to make your pictures look artistic or aesthetically pleasing — the idea is you are not and should not feel obligated to edit just to fit in a certain crowd. Society has set an image of an ideal body type. Subconsciously, we feed into this not realizing that most of our inspirational pictures are in fact, highly edited as well. We’re trying to reach beauty goals that don’t even exist.
Everyone has different body types, so why can’t we embrace it instead of conforming to one type? Why do we succumb to these societal constructs?
Plastic surgery. First off, I’m all for it. But I don’t believe anyone needs it. For medical reasons, I believe it is necessary. But ladies, your man, if he’s the right one, is going to love you despite your big curves, despite the wrinkles on your face, and despite the stretch marks or cellulite on your flesh. News flash, stretch marks are normal. Wrinkles are a sign of aging and your breast size should not determine your happiness. Society today puts us down for these things. Selling wrinkle creams, makeup, breast implants, and other items to make you feel “beautiful.” How about we accept the fact the getting older means we get wrinkles, bags under our eyes, breasts sag, and our hair turns grey. It’s reality. It’s life. You should never feel like you are any less beautiful because if this. Because your personality matters more.
Personality. Hobbies. Hopes. Dreams. Skills. Education. These are parts of us that many people forget can contribute to our beauty. Our inner beauty. Our personality. As individuals, I believe it is important to be the best version of yourself. Contribute to your community, spread positivity and love to the ones around you. Help one another and live your life.
I say personality matters more because, in 50 years, our bodies physically change but what’s inside stays the same. Your outlook on life, your heart, and your morals as a human being will still be there. You should strive to be beautiful overall, not just physically.