Everyone feels some sort of social anxiety in making new friends but every individual is bound to make some sort of connection with quite a lot of individuals in his life. Here we are going to discuss how you can begin many to some friendships.
The vast majority of us have heard the term ‘blind date’ where we let our friends set us up with somebody we’ve never met. In the scenario that you’ve recently moved to another city, have a companion set you up on a totally platonic blind date with one of his or her friends who lives nearby.
When you pursue hobbies and activities you enjoy, you have a good chance of meeting people with similar interests. So check out the local library or go play some sports in the sports complex. Every occasion is an opportunity to make a new friend.
When you’re just starting to get to know someone, cultivate closeness by discussing something that’s personal and private than the awful weather or how bad a team is at playing its game. When both of you have been talking for quite some time, attempt what researchers call the “Fast Friends” technique – basically each party uncovers something important about him or herself. For instance, both of the individuals could begin by answering, “What’s the most embarrassing moment in your life?”
Pursue and Persevere
While not every person has the valor to really do it, a large portion of us know how to pursue a crush. Send flowers to their office. Invite them to a concert featuring a band you know they adore. Gift them chocolates. (Apply similar (but less romantic) tactics when pursuing a potential friend.) For example, send the person an email asking them to lunch or a coffee date next week, and follow up afterward to say you had a good time you’d like to go again if they had a similar experience.
Have a Goal
Unless you tell yourself that when I attend this party or when I go to school today, I am going to make new friends you can never even begin on making friends. You’ll be left helpless in the face of the many that know nothing about you and will trample you without a moment’s notice.
Seriously. This is an extremely powerful tactic for making connections than you might believe. For one thing, smiling takes us out of our own head and make us think more about the image we’re projecting. Plus, people who smile (as opposed to folks with poker faces) are perceived as more attractive, kinder, and happier, and therefore more approachable.
Never take it personal
We know. We know how bad it feels when someone turns you down saying, “It’s not you, it’s me.” But when you invite someone to your place or you go out with someone and they turn you down, don’t freak out. It’s just one of the many you’ll encounter in your life till you find the ‘ONE’. (Hopefully) Just stay strong and have a positive outlook towards life. Life like roads has bumps which slow you down, but it also has roundabouts which turn your life into something amazing.