Material Things Don’t Guarantee Happiness Part II
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Having Hundreds of “Friends”
While most of us left High School a while ago, it seems the High Schooler in all of us never really left. This is especially true when social media sites like Facebook and Instagram came along.
Now if you don’t have hundreds or even thousands of “friends” on your social media sites, it feels as though you’re destined to become that mystic lone wolf everyone mentions in those teen fiction wattpad stories. But despite the exaggeration of the concept, being without a million friends is really not that bad, just like having a lot of friends doesn’t guarantee happiness. A large group could mean a lot of backstabbing and drama, it’s bound to happen if six people are hanging out with each other for most of their days! Similarly, one best friend might look like fewer parties or sometime’s not hanging out at all, but it might also mean you really filtered your crowd and hang out with someone you truly connect with.
Real friends connect with you in person. They can see and connect in a real way with you. Some of the happiest people I know don’t even have social media accounts. It’s just one of those things you don’t need to feel complete.
The Perfect Family
So this is one aspect of life everyone co-relates with happiness and health which really isn’t true. The standard nuclear family consisting of a mother, father, and two/three kids is sure a nice looking family but that’s as far as it goes, like pictures on cereal boxes.
We can’t choose our families. And we can’t control how they act or think. But that doesn’t mean our family is a true reflection of who we are as an individual. Some families are happier and more well-adjusted; while others may be so toxic that you may have to physically leave and create your own to be happy.
A perfect family is one of the things you don’t need to be really happy. But it is possible to have a family that loves, supports, and respect you.
Total Control
Knowing the exact details of what will or should happen next does give you control but it does not ensure happiness.
Sometimes uncertainty brings adventure, it curtains the bad parts of your future for the better. When you have everything in control you can’t enjoy the little bits of it, you can’t essentially enjoy what it feels like to let go of things. You can’t be carefree and that’s another high you’re missing out on.
The Power to Make Everyone Else Happy
The only way you can truly make others happy is by being yourself 100 percent of the time. Even then, a fair amount of people will hate you for daring to be yourself.
The more you try to make them happy so they’ll finally like you, the more likely they’ll hate you even more. They’ll also have no respect for you. If you are looking for a quick and easy way to burn-out and feel unloved, unappreciated and unhappy, become a people-pleaser.
If you are looking for a happy and empowered life, choose to make decisions based on your needs. Learn to like yourself before you expect others to like you. Make yourself happy.
Put yourself above everyone else.
