The Aftermath of a Suicide: The Haraam Cowardice
Excessive religiosity has never done any good, but if the first thing that comes to anyone’s mind after hearing of a suicide is how they will not go to heaven, then perhaps it is time to reevaluate your thought process, and your perception of the world.
The death of BNU students, Rushaan Khan has the entire country in shock, and despair over the life of a bright young woman, who exhibited symptoms of depression, and suicidal thoughts and lost the fight to the mental illness that ate her from within. As a result of no longer wanting to live, she jumped off the fourth floor, and later died from those injuries.
Not a week has passed since her death, but the self-righteous have begun to deliver their verdicts upon her demise, completely ignoring the fact that her friends – of which there were many – and family need time to grieve and process the death of their loved one.
As far as the verdict is concerned these people, who considers themselves well informed about matters of the soul, where it goes when things end on a physical plane and most importantly, God’s decision, which in this case, is sending the person who committed suicide to hell.
On one hand these people claim, that God has allotted us free will, that we are free to choose our own path, shape our destinies and go to heaven or hell depending on our deeds – which are now clearly subject to their own notions of morality – yet on the other hand, they strong-arm people into believing they know what God will do the “sinners,” in this case the sinner being the one who committed suicide.
Why are they choosing the higher moral ground, and assigning themselves the position of God’s advocate, when it is they, themselves who preach that the All Mighty can do whatever He pleases? Why, then, do they force their own morality onto people who neither need nor want it, and why on such a grave matter as people taking their own lives? We do not want you to use people’s deaths to make a point about your knowledge of a religion you assume everyone follows, or should. Please, have some respect. Show some humanity, by keeping silent if you have nothing nice to say. Offer your condolences not your harsh words about the dead person.
People will defend child molesters, rapists, serial killers, murderers, extortionists after their deaths, but God forbid someone take their life, and suddenly everyone has a right to an opinion about the deceased, which they will further defend with the typical argumentation of, “Freedom of speech.”
Here’s a hard pill to swallow for all those who use this argument to justify the complete, and utter crap that leaves their mouth: freedom of speech does not mean you are free from being held accountable for what you’ve said. The price you must pay for blurting out whatever insensitive thing you’ve thought up is that others will see you for the person you really are. While you may have the right to put your own thoughts out there, the world will not let you get away with saying whatever you please. They will not forget your insensitivity towards a dead person, who was so exhausted from life that they chose to take matters into their own hands and end it all.
Then, appears the side that argues cowardice: according to these moralists, taking your own life is choosing “the easier way out,” or the coward’s way. The belief that snuffing out one’s own breath is easy to do, is nothing but ignorance of the most disgusting kind.
Suicide is cowardice at its best.
It doesn't need a courageous person to commit suicide; rather a weak one, will eventually give in to darkness and take his/her life.#RushaanFarrukh— Syeda Sehrish (@SehrishBukhari7) November 27, 2018
Do you think it was cowardice to be able to jump off a building?
Is it easy to slit your own wrists, knowing it’s going to hurt until you die, waiting for unconsciousness?
Is tipping poison into your mouth a sign of the fainthearted?
People need to realize the excruciating thought process that goes into the decision, because it isn’t spontaneous. Nobody wakes up one day, and goes, “Time to die,” and then instantly off themselves. What do you know of a person’s inner conflict, and struggle with both themselves and society? Nothing, and that is why you must say nothing.
Let the dead rest in peace. They don’t need your hate.
As for God, you’re not Him, so stop pretending as if you are.
SUICIDE IS A CHOICE NOT A CONSEQUENCE OF DEPRESSION.
After 1 failed suicide attempt at the age of 7 and after fighting depression for 3 years. I can say yes suicide is a Haram cowardice.
There were days when anxiety hit me and my panic attacks were so sever that I’d just shiver and cry or bite on to something so I wouldn’t shout. There were days when suicide seemed only way out. But I resisted. I told my self that if this life is a punishment upon me then this is what Allah has chosen for me. If he wants me to endure it I will endure it. Not that I had such a great faith but I knew if I killed my self my mother will die too. Suicide is a Choice. An easy and forbidden choice. I have 0 sympathy for this girl. She was coward and selfish.
I want people to be more educated and aware about mental health and depression but I also want them to know what ever you’re going through … It will end… Most of all I want people to understand THAT SUICIDE IS HARAM.
Although the repercussions of suicide are clear in Ahahdees, it is also clear that if a Muslim commits suicide, he/she is not excluded from Islam. Therefore, we need to pray for the deceased and encourage the family and friends to do so extensively as the departed soul needs that the most.