fbpx

What is Comparison Porn, Are you Guilty? (I know I am)

We go to these sites thinking that we are seeking inspiration, finding clues to what makes people happy, staying current and up-to-date, playing games with the flirty DM’s, hating on those who spread hate, fighting finger wars and spending fancy time on the go thinking, ‘wow, what multi-tasking.’ But, little do we know that piece by piece this stuff eats us up.

Porn is not just the sexual kind that fucks it all up. There is Foodporn. Then there is Hustleporn. Then there is LifestylePorn. This is really getting everywhere and in places, it shouldn’t be, such as classrooms during trigonometry classes which is some weirdly complicated stuff right, or in serious times like at funerals and on family dinners and parent-teacher meetings.

I personally love Insta-Influencers who show off their road trips, fancy Vegas tours, Hollywood Sunsets, Grunge photoshoots in remote locations, Coachella stories and trips to vineyards, all of it is just LIT. If you scroll the feed of Hira Shayk or Alishba Sheikh or Maryam Ishtiaq, you know what perfect lives look like. Well, at least you know what desi perfection looks like on Instagram. But, when I overdo it and cross a certain time limit, instead of making my eyes feel beautiful aesthetics and picturesque sunset dinners or jiggling night lights around the world, I begin to feel nauseated. And even self-pitying.

This pain is everywhere. We are not alone. You don’t know it, but it affects you.

Funnily enough, the cure is available. You can head right to your app, and no, not delete it, and not limit, just set up a reminder, that tells you when you cross, say 30 minutes on Instagram, or 45 or whatever, you can remind you to not spend a breathlessly long amount of time, just sitting in an awkward position, or changing your posture every 40 minutes, just because scrolling is your second nature.

Take control of your own life. Don’t let this new media try and bother you, depress you or make you think like you are less. Don’t let these things determine how happy you are, because your standards are not high or low, your expectations from yourself shouldn’t come from the projection of what others have and you don’t on you.

Leave a Reply

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.